Pick up any woman’s magazine nowadays and you’ll be forgiven for thinking that everyone out there is having wonderful sex, all the time! How in heaven’s name they’re managing that after a day’s slog at the office, picking the kids up from school and then cooking dinner and supervising homework boggles the mind.
At the best of times, most of us can’t wait to fall into an exhausted sleep at the end of the day – never mind checking to see if our legs are fuzz-free. Sadly, the modern working woman juggles so many responsibilities in the course of a normal day that loving sexual relations (which is crucial for any healthy relationship) simply gets put on the back burner. There are so many reasons for this, but also so many simple ways to get back on track.
Stress is the no.1 culprit
You don’t need to be stressing about a deadline at the office or how to get Johnny’s project done for him in time to get it to school the next day, to be stressed. Stress is the body’s natural reaction to everyday triggers and most of us walk around in a slightly stressed state all day. It’s the feeling of irritation every time your phone beeps and distracts you, the annoyance you feel at someone cutting you off in the traffic – all these minor everyday incidences build up internally. Your body’s natural reaction to deal with this is to release a hormone called cortisol, which can inhibit your natural libido.
Your first line of defense against this is to cut down on refined carbohydrates and sugar. That means ditching your white bread sarnie and pastries and increasing your intake of wholegrains and fruit and vegetables.
Try some relaxing yoga exercises before bedtime. Short, effective workouts can be found online and doing these regularly will enable you to physically and mentally relax.
It’s all in the mind
By now, you probably know that your mind is your biggest and most powerful sexual organ. If you’ve ever lost interest during sex because your mind has wandered to tomorrow’s shopping list, you’ll get the picture. Dopamine is the magic word here – it’s the feel-good chemical released by the brain that triggers feelings of arousal, desire, love and orgasm. Boost your levels of dopamine by making some changes in your diet.
The foods below will give your flagging libido the boost it needs:
red meat and other high protein foods such as eggs, beans and cheese and oily fish
fresh fruits and vegetables, especially watermelon which contains Vitamins A, B6 and C
herbs and spices such as cayenne pepper, black pepper, rosemary, garlic, ginger and turmeric
Have a look at the Ruby, Cabala and Joy fresh juices in the Juzcit range for some great, convenient fruit and spice combinations.
Chocolate is the most popular Valentine gift for a reason, and it’s not just because women get excited when opening the beautiful red heart-shaped box. With the high iron content and lots of beneficial compounds, chocolate can be your ally in spicing up your sex life. Before you run to the supermarket and grab a chocolate bar, bear in mind that not all chocolate is created equal. Aim for at least 85% cocoa solids to get the maximum benefits that dark chocolate has to offer.
Set the scene
Lastly and very importantly, reclaim your bedroom. The bedroom is the sacred space for you and your partner to connect, communicate and spend time together. Get rid of the television, the tablet and charge your mobile phones in a separate space. Pets, as much as we love them, need to be sleeping outside and the kids too, need to respect this space. So give it a clear out, refresh your linen and reclaim the early days of your relationship before Ben 10 and Co. took over!